BLOGS: Love

Well, First off, It has been a while since I have posted here. I have been taking advantage of the Facebook Notes section of the page. I am going to try and update this a little more often.

The Theme I Want To Talk About Today Is Love

First, In a personal sense. What does it mean when I tell you I love you? There is a lot of emotion when it comes to the word "love." I don't throw it out there very often. So, if I ever tell you I love you, I really do love you. What does "love" mean then? First, and most importantly, it means I care about you. If I ask you what's up, or how are you, I really care, and I want to know what is going on in your life. I use these two phrases a lot. Overall, I really do care, but if I have ever told you I love you, there is an extra degree of interest that I have in your state of being. There is a difference between being in love, and loving someone too. The word Love can be used to describe both of these emotions, so that is another reason why I am careful not to throw it out there. Next, why do I love you? There are many reasons why I could love you. One of the biggest, and easiest ways to get me to love you, is treat me right. Seems like such an easy thing to do, right? Well, obviously, I either don't deserve to be treated right, or it is just the normal standard for people to mistreat others, because finding people who treat me right is very challenging. Second, You don't have to be good looking for me to love you, matter of fact, I will never love someone based on how they look. As far as my personal quest to find someone whom I am in love with, I have a certain idea on how you should look. Basically, to sum that up, you can't look like you got ran over by a car. I want someone beautiful that I can show off to the world, and say, "look here, guys. THIS is MY girl." But as far as my personal love, you don't have to look a certain way for me to love you. Now, as far as brotherly love. I don't love very many guys. Outside of my family, I honestly love 3 guys. Two of which are like father figures to me. The third guy is one of my best friends. He was my best friend in elementary school, and there is a special bond between us. We are literally brothers. There are plenty of other small, trivial things that you can do to gain my love, but overall, it sums up to just be nice.

My love is not something that I take lightly. When I say I love you, it is like there is a special bond that I feel. Once again, it is not something I just throw out there and say. If I tell you I love you, however, there is not a lot I wouldn't do for you. My love is unconditional, almost. In order to loose my love, you would have to really hurt me. If I love you, I will usually be more forgiving with you as well. There is not anything that has ever happened to me that I wouldn't forgive. Those of you who know what I went through, and am still going thru, starting April 2012, would find that hard to believe. Those who hurt me last year, well one of them anyway, deserves forgiveness. Now, things will never ever be the same with the one person again. That is alright. Life happens, and just because you screwed up my life doesn't mean I can't forgive. I will never forget, and sometimes I will hold a grudge, but usually, I can move on and take the past "with a grain of salt."  The people whom I truly love are very special people to me. Two special friends come to my mind when I hear the word Love. First, is my best friend Emily. There are so many things that this wonderful girl has done for me, that I can not name them all. One of the biggest things she has done for me, is that she has always been a wonderful friend. I can remember days, as early on as elementary school, where she has welcomed my company, and been a smiling face that I can count on. We spent Jr. High together also, and I always knew that I had a friend in her. She was my first valentine ever, on February 14, 2013. She is a wonderful person, and I love that she is so sweet to me. The second girl that comes to my mind is someone I have never met before. This girl is so sweet and beautiful, but I get the impression she is a little bit insecure about herself. This girl is Kerry. Now, she is just a wonderful person to talk to. She is such a beautiful young lady, and she has a big heart. She treats me wonderfully, always encouraging me, and making me feel as if I am important. I met Kerry over twitter, and I have never actually met her in person. That doesn't change anything. I still love her, mainly because she is so sweet and caring. 

A friend recently described the difference between love and being in love. I think it is an accurate description of the difference. She said, "When you love someone...you can love several people, [or things] like you love family and friends, and idols [or shoes or clothes]. When you're IN love, it's one person and it just feels different like you'd kiss them and stuff"

For me, it takes work to love someone. It's not an all of the sudden I love you kinda thing. It takes lots of time and you showing me that I would be investing my love into a good cause. Once I am sure you are a genuine person, I will allow myself to love you. I have been hurt by many, and loved by few, and that is alright with me. Those who hate me will never have any idea of how much love I can give.

Well, That basically sums up how I feel on love. Talk to ya guys soon. Always Sm;)e! 

Luc